Feeling bad

[tinabowen]

This hot weather has made me feel so bad..
I know I am not having shortness of breath but it's so darn humid that I have breathing problems..
I just finished two rounds of Antibiotics for a Sinus infection and I still have it..
Pregnancy wise I feel great the baby is moving, and runs everytime they try to find the heartbeat..
I find out next week how it is and maybe the sex..
My Dr told me I needed a Handicap sticker and that I don't need to be on my feet for more than 30 mins at a time and to rest 2 hours a day..
It's hard to rest with a 10 month old..
I think I check my pulse 4-5 times a day plus listen to my heart 2-3 times a day..

I get so depressed some days, I can't seem to be in any pregnancy groups it's hard to listen to women who are complaining about little things when i have so much to worry about, then there's the brestfeeding mom who will down anyone for not breastfeeding no matter the reason..I would of loved to breastfeed Nicholas but I couldn't and I have already been told as soon as this one's born I will start Lisinopril again so no breatfeeding..
I think our health is more important than breastfeeding..

I just had to rant some it seems no one else understands this but you guys..


Tina

[SerenaWelsh]

Oh Tina!
Maybe this is your opportunity to tell these women about PPCM. So many have never heard of it, or even know it could happen (I didn't!). Maybe once they fully know what you're going through, they won't be so quick to whine about the little stuff.

You can always rant here.

[mikeyandBellesmommy]

I went through a post ppcm pregnancy and I hope this helps and doesn't sound bad..

Act like your pregnancy is normal, treat it as normal as much as you can, chances of reoccurance are pretty slim, treat minor problems as just pregnancy NOT ppcm related, everyone pregnant gets a little swollen, has aches and pains hates the heat etc your ehart rate will go up with pregnancy and heat.. so try not to freak your self out.. OBVIOUSLY IF IT IS BAD CALL YOUR DOC

I know because we have had such a hard time and pregnancy isn't easy for us we do have a tendency to feel our hardships are worse than other "normal pregancies" but you do have to remember to another pregnant woman in JULY heat life sucks to her as well.. and honestly they have no idea what we've gone through and how bad it can really be, so try not to be resentful.. they really have no idea. Go to those pregnant groups and have fun talking about your new baby!!!!! My sister is pregnant now and HAS NOT stopped complaining, I just shrug adn tell her to enjoy it, you never know it may be your last.. you know what I mean.

I chose to have my son, my post PPCM baby, I enjoyed every minute of my pregancy knowing he was most likely my last baby. I pretended as much as possible that my PG was normal, even though I sat at high risk docs for hours on end every two weeks and my cardio once a month. I did see some really scary cases though when I was there some even worse than me, honestly I never new about any of these other probelms either here are some examples I felt so bad for them

One girl was there for stress test every week with me with a dead twin in her belly, another gril was monitored every other day for Help as she had it with her last and almost died, one woman lost her baby at 28 weeks do to Help syndrome, One lady was there every week with all of us preggos prayign that she wouldn't lose this baby after 5 miscarriages, another girl was there every week as her child was going to be severly handicapped and they didn't know if it would survive, a poor poor woman was there every week getting non stress test with triplets, she was so tiny and in pain. I saw so much there I was at a city hospital high risk group that well mine didn't seem so bad sometimes..

Remember we chose to have another or keep another and we have to deal with those consequences, the only thing we can really do is make the best of it, I DID have a reoocurance and as scary as it was, I tried so hard not to freak out because I looked at my son and knew it was worth it..

I will also add the girls here are great to complain to when you do have a break down, LOL! Try to enjoy your pregancy because like I said it could be your last and don't you want to look at at least one pregnancy fondly, My PG with Belle stunk but with Mikey it was great, I tried to enjoy every little occasion with him and still do lol..

If you are scared or ever need to talk about post ppcm pregnancy please e mail me anytime cmarino@centercapitalcorp.com... keep your chin up you are so lucky to be having another one and YOU WILL DO GREAT!!!!

PS the breastfeeding issues REALLY bother me so not to offend anyone on here I am not going to say anything.. Your child will be fine even if you can't bf!

[tinabowen]

You girls know how to make someone feel better..
I do better in groups with women that are having high risk Pregnancies, I understand their pain..I think this one is going great I can still wear shoes, always great..
I had 7 miscarriages before Nicholas due to low Progesterone so having him was a miracle and this one more so because of no fertility drugs..

I do my best to make it NORMAL but the Dr's(OB) remind me every visit that something could go wrong..
I think they get me down more than having PPCM..This is our last pregnancy, I don't think my body can handle anymore after 10(Ihad a miscarriage before I became pregnant with this one)...
I am so happy to get the chance for another miracle and I guess I get upset when some women treat it as a curse...

Nicholas is formula fed and he is doing great..He's 10 months old and has 8 teeth walking with help(toys and furniture), standing alone and talking his head off his new word is Mama Baby..

I have tried to explain PPCM but on group asked "nothing Negative about pregnancy, you don't need to scare the moms to be"...


Tina

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[carriep]

Oh, Tina.....I can't believe someone said not to scare them. Well, how stinking scared would they be if they found themselves in our shoes. Being informed is the key to everything. Oh boy, if I got that response...growl.
Keep your chin up. Its hard to be pg, much less with this possible situation looming over you. But as my cardio put it, he's really not going to be overly concerned about me until my 3rd trimester so I'll try to do the same (when the time comes).But freaking out is my nature, so I'll probably be just like you:)
Take care and enjoy your little one and the one to come.

[tinabowen]

Carrie, when are you Due?
I am the worry wart of the family, my therapist says I have irrational thinking..

I don't want anyone to end up like WE have...Some women think pregnancy is a bed of roses and nothing goes wrong, We WISH...

My Cardiologist isn't as worried as the OB's and Peri thinks I am doing great, it's just the OB's who scare the Crap out of me..
One told me that If I show signs of CHF they will deliver in ICU no matter how far along I am..That scared me so much...

Tina

[SerenaWelsh]

Tina,

Not to make lite of it, but I delivered in the BIG operating room (and re-cooped in ICU) at 28 weeks along. It's scary, yes...but it's not the end. It's only a different part of this thing we're in.
No use telling a worry wart not to dwell on it, but try your best to focus on the good things (like good parking places at Babies R Us!).

Those of you who remember me a little over a year ago are probably laughing your butts off that I'm saying this now - but you guys really were all right. It's ok, I'm still here, and BOY do I have stories for the grand kids!

[JenniV]

I am not for or against BF or giving formula. Whatever works for you. I did want to add, however, that Lisinopril is safe for breastfeeding. It is not safe if you are pg, but it was found to be safe for BFing. This was checked into by not only my cardiologist, but also my two Internal Med. Drs., my pediatrician and my cousin who is a pharmacist. I was a littel worried when they put me on it, but that is precisely why they chose that particular drug. I double, triple and quadruple checked it out. I hope this helps!

Good luck with this pregnancy. Enjoy it!

[mikeyandBellesmommy]

I had Mikey in the OR too and recovered in CCU for a few days, looking back it wasnt all that bad... I was upset because I did want a normal delivery etc.. but my docs where just looking out for me.. You will do fine and once you see your baby it won't matter at all where you are..

Also like I said before your chances of reoccurence are so low but if there is one your docs will be SO SO SO on top of it, it will never be like last time. As soon as my docs saw a decline, all the nurses and docs where ready I had the anesthisialogist come in right away and they NEVER gave my heart a chance to declien anymore, they just got on it so quick. I really felt confident that they would NOT let anything happen to me, and well I was right, MY EF is back up to 60% and I feel good most days!

let us know how the Ultrasound goes! My sister is due in OCtober and has told us she is NOT fidning out what she is having, I am SO MAD, LOL!

[tinabowen]

My Dr made it sound so bad..
When I was re-admitted I was on the OB floor so Nicholas could come see me and after ICU the Cardiologist sent me back there so I could spend time with him..

I don't care how this one comes out, as long as it's baked a while..LOL
I would prefer a C-Section so I can get a tubal then also..LOL

With the way things are these days it pays to find out the sex..I know most of the stuff Nicholas had will be wore by this one since he had so much some he only worse once..LOL

Tina

[naturalmama1012]

I totally understand how nerve-wracking it can be... I think for me it helped to have a healthy case of denial ;) and a refusal to believe anything could go wrong. I just had to proceed as if everything was normal, or I would've killed myself with stress!

I wanted to tell you, you can BF on Lisinopril. I was also told that I could not, when I had my first DS, and was so sad to give it up... I have since found out, through my current cardiologist and my pediatrician, that it passes in very small amounts into the breastmilk and it would have been OK for me to continue BFing. This time around they have put me on Enalapril, which is also safe for BFing. We are also using Toprol instead of Coreg as my beta blocker because there is more data on that and BFing (although, my ped feels the Coreg would probably be OK too). My ped's take on it is that most meds are passed in such small quantities into the milk, that their effects are negligible and in the words of my ped "Some docs just err on the side of caution and say no because they don't really know."

Have confidence that you will be fine... the mind is a powerful thing! :)