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SerenaWelsh
06-21-2005, 10:32 AM
I'm glad you found our site, and hope you can find all the support you need here.

When I was finally diagnosed, I was in the 23rdish week of my third pregnancy. My EF was somewhere between 5% - 15%, depending on who read the echo. Quite a few doctors wanted to end the pregnancy right then.
I was hospitalized, and we continued the pregnancy with careful monitoring of my heart and that baby, and I delivered her at 28 weeks. The prognosis for me was NOT good, but clearly, they were wrong. I was never ever as sick as most of these women.
Having said that, there are no guarantees in life one way or the other. When you make your decision about what to do, you need to make sure it's right for you, and you're not giving in to the desires of your doctors, family members, or friends. If you decide to end this pregnancy, make sure that it's something you can live with down the line, and don't allow yourself to think about the "what could have beens." But - if you decide to keep this pregnancy, make sure you follow it through. Fire every doctor that is not supporting of you. Get yourself to the best high-risk OB you can find, and get a cardiologist who is experienced with pregnant women. And most of all, expect nothing, and be prepared for anything. Sometimes you find yourself in the middle of a situation that you have no control over. You just have to close your eyes and trust. God, Fate, the Universe. Doesn't matter what you call it. This is one of those times.

SarahsMom
06-21-2005, 01:50 PM
Ladyacura,

What ever you decide, we'll be here for you! It's a tough decision. Hang in there and think it through all angles.

Take care!

Love,
Kari

carrob
06-21-2005, 02:33 PM
Hello and welcome !!! I don't have any answers for you at this point.....but I may be in your position someday. We're waiting to get my next echo done in July and then think about trying. My docs are "finally" supportive now that I've reached 40% about trying pregnancy. However, we have NO CHILDREN so it's a little different. I would just take it very, very slow (if possible) before you make a definite decision. Like Serena said, find the best possible care you can......and decide for yourself. This decision belongs to your little family and no one else. Like you, my doc has said that if I start to decline, we'd have to terminate........ But, who are they to say? My Dad keeps reminding me that these docs put their pants on every morning just like the rest of us. I wish I could tell you what to do.......but I can't. But, I can tell you that I'm praying for you and your family. We're ALWAYS here for you !!!! :)